I struggle with this, maybe you do to. I say I’m going to do X and then sometimes it gets done and other times it doesn’t. Doesn’t happens far too often though.
What separates the Sayers vs. the Doers. For me I think a lot of the time is a lack of motivation or a lack of willpower. Think about it.
Its so easy to say I am going to do something. But saying isn’t enough. To get something done takes more than just words.
I can say I want to post 3 times a week, draw 2 times a week and write for other commitments 2-3 times a week. But if a system isn’t in place to make it happen, there is no reason for it to happen.
Merely wanting isn’t enough. We all want change. We all want to branch out of our comfort zones and take a step outside of our normal expectations. But inherently we lack the willpower to do so.
I think those that are most successful are those that force themselves to also be organized. We have to make ourselves goal orientated in order to achieve. Not only to just have goals but to also develop a concrete system in which we will achieve them.
For example I’ve decided that I will finally stop saying I should exercise and finally do exercise. But making it happen took more than me saying enough is enough. I also had to plan for a motivator. I decided that whenever Isabella would go down for her first nap I would take 30 minutes to do the exercise routine that I choose. Not only that but I scheduled a reminder time to go off in my Calendar. But I didn’t stop there. In order to make it the most effective I put in the WHY. The why is the reason things get done.
My why is this: I need to exercise so I can be in better shape. Why? Because Isabella needs me in better shape so that I can be healthy for her. This puts things into a whole different perspective. My reminder timer just says this :
"Exercise – for Isabella, your baby needs you healthy and whole get up and do it take 30 mins!"
Simple but effective. And it works.I can say I’ve followed it everyday so far (although I admit I missed Sunday although I plan to go twice tomorrow to make it for it.)
By simply putting in a motivator in the most precise terms it changes something from an abstract should do to a concrete must do.
I’m still working on this. I think that for a lot of us it is something that we need to work at. But by changing how we view the task it is certainly more manageable. When I view something in the perspective as I have to do it for X (e.g.: Isabella) than for me at least it is more likely to get done. There are some excellent pieces around the web that talk about this:
Ace Tough Job Interviews – by Ramit Sethi , this is a great read, big motivator. Ignore the title, this article applies to more than just job hunting, this is more like the interview skills for life itself. Skip to the end if you want but the whole thing is worth reading In my opinion. Has some great information on the psychology of wanting to do versus actionable steps to done.
What’s Your 2011? – by Tsh at SimpleMom.net I love Tsh’s writing style and everything about SimpleMom.net. This article explores the concept of saying no – that we don’t have to do everything to feel complete, but that doesn’t mean we stop achieving our end goals.
The Only 2 Things You Need to Do to Improve – from Success, Your Way (Life Your Way). This Article says everything I wanted to say above only so much better.
Do you struggle with being accountable to your want-to-do’s? What are your steps for being able to place that check mark on your to-do list? Share your tips and struggles in the comments.